I am a wired, highly sensitive, super organised, clean freak kind of person. In the past, I would have hated to admit that to you. On the outside, I seem quite chilled, and friends comment that I appear relaxed. However, as the analogy has been used before, I was like the peaceful duck on a lake, with legs frantically moving under water. I was “on the go” from the moment I got out of bed in the morning.
I shared last week how I was diagnosed with Thyroid Auto-Immune in 2014. This was the wake-up call to also manage my stress levels. Over the years, I had many well-meaning and loving people say to me that it was normal to feel the amount of stress I had, as was part of the parcel of running a business and family. So, I accepted that and went on feeling more and more drained physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Stress feels like a leakage. Like you’re running dry and unable to freely give your all, feel present and patient to the ones you love and enjoy the moment.
Of course, occasional stressful moments are unavoidable and meditation will help in the unavoidable “manure hits the fan” moments. However, daily stress is unhealthy and we shouldn’t believe the little lie that says, “that’s normal”.
Two years on and meditation has changed me and I believe it played a huge part in my healing. I am still highly sensitive, super organised and a clean freak but I embrace that as an amazing quality in me. I am not as wired, I’m a deep thinker but I can calm the raging storm of thoughts and worries.
Business and home life is as busier as ever and here is a glimpse at my little routine, yours might look different, so go with what works for you, or keep trying until you find what works.
I set my alarm 40 minutes before the kids get up. They know to not disturb me until after 6.30am, even if they are awake beforehand (told you I was super organised!). I tiptoe out to the kitchen and make a hot water and fresh lemon. Head back to my room, roll out the yoga mat and do some yoga or gentle stretches, depends how deep I want to go. I love ocean sounds, that’s my happy place, so on goes the iTunes and I meditate for 5-10 minutes. The kids are then up in full force and I can confidently say, I am a happier mum for them in the mornings.
- Noise cancelling headphones come in super handy, so you can meditate anywhere! (But to be honest, once you get used to it, noises around you aren’t as much of a disturbance).
- If this is all very new to you, download a meditation app. Smiling Minds is a good one.
- Set boundaries at home with kids, pets, partners, so they know not to disturb you.
- Start small and commit to 5 minutes a day, increase time to 10 minutes, then try twice daily.
- Focus on your breath, don’t worry if you mind wanders, bring back focusing on breath.
- Try a positive mantra to say in your mind, such as “I am loved, I am lovable” “I am safe” “All is well”
- Sit up comfortably, lean up against a pillow, cross legged is not necessary.
- Try and sit in a sunny spot to feel the warmth of the sun and get a dose of Vitamin D while you’re at it.
You will start to notice the benefits and crave it more and more, as you become happier, lighter and healthier for it.
Would love to hear how it goes for you!